AVOIDING UNNECESSARY SEXUAL CRACKS IN YOUR MARRIAGE/RELATIONSHIP

AVOIDING UNNECESSARY SEXUAL CRACKS IN YOUR MARRIAGE/RELATIONSHIP 

  1) Sexual Communication and Compatibility

   Sexual communication is key. Regularly communicate what you want and do not want during sex. Learn what your spouse loves and do not during sex. Be an explorer. Your spouse's body is meant to be sexually explored by you at will. It is your play ground and a human stress relieving apparatus! 

   But kindly note that sexual compatibility is key. Note the differences and similarities in your approach to sex. Do they outweigh each other very much or is there a balance?

   If the issues stem from sexual inadequacies alone, then you are fortunate. Your best bet is to meet with a renowned sex therapist (like me, Dr Ray) who can recommend the specific therapy and prepare the Homeopathic (medicines) treatment and not who will just offer treatment prescription to potential client-patients

   2) Emotional Incompatibility and Insecurities

   Where a couple may have  issues is the area of emotional incompatibility! They may need to go back to the drawing board. Start afresh. If possible have a new marriage proposal (just for themselves alone), truly forgive each other and expunge all grudges from their hearts. They need to realize that nothing can be done about the past. If your ex wanted to marry you, he or she would have. Whatever regrets should be shoved aside and a new beginning should be liturgically sort after. Marital happiness is a state of mind. You both can achieve it. 

   Again, try to retract any dissecting comments or abuse on your spouse in the past. Constantly assure your spouse that you love him/her dearly and willing to join hands and faith with him/her to make it work out.

  3) Self and Spouse Body Shaming

   It's sad how people directly and indirectly body shame their spouses. You have sworn to love your spouse, why body shame him/her? Why body shame yourself? Please love your body and that of your spouse. You can never keep remaining youthful forever. That body you admired and worship as a god or goddess body would begin to fade with age. It will happen to everybody.  While making love ensure you do so passionately. Make your spouse know that you enjoy your spouse's body. You get hungry for it every time. While at work or away, flirt with her/him via simple texts or pictures or calls or whatever means. This is a form of mental foreplay which works superbly.

   Now, tell me, if you do not appreciate your body, how will someone else appreciate it better? You sexually dictate the tune and tone in bed by appreciating your body even in the presence of your spouse.

   4) Do Not Be Sexually Boring, Judgmental and Inhibited.

   Try new sex positions and sex toys. Ask for the sexual fantasies of your lover. Play out the ones that can be played out, this way you can both trust yourselves with your inner sexual cravings without being judged by each other.

   Occasionally attend adult entertainment outings (for example, the orgies Ray's Sensual Calls Spa IG: @9jaMassageDr , Twitter: @IntimateCraving organize occasionally), go to Strip Clubs, see exciting adult contents together, etc!

   Another thing I would implore couples to try is this: never you allow your anger and quarrel to get into the next day (if truly you love yourselves). Ensure you settle the quarrel with a passionate 'peace-making' lovemaking later that day or at night. If you are on your period, you can cuddle, get cozy or even engage in oral sex and outercourse! Some of your intimate moments should not just be about penetrative sex alone. 

Kindly read further in my previous article (HOW TO MAKE WOMEN CUM) 

5) Financial and Work Related Stress

   This is where deep conversation and sincere communication helps. Spouses be caring enough to know what your spouse is going through in business, at work, financially etc. Encourage your spouse. Ensure that your spouse knows that you are solidly behind him/her. You stand with your spouse and put heads together to resolve your challenges. Kindly note that challenges are a part of life. It should not rob you off your marital bliss.

6) Transfer Of Almost All The Love To Children

   There should be a vital balance between love for children and love for spouse.

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 I am Dr. Ray, an Asian-Trained Masseur (Male Massage Therapist), Homeopathic Physiotherapist, Sex Therapist, Couples Intimacy Coach and Homeopathic Medicines Dr.

   I am also the CEO of Ray’s Sensual Calls Spa – A leading Mobile Spa, Adult Entertainment and Leisure Outfit and Sex Clinics (Virtual and Physical for couples and individuals who are facing Sexual Wellness Challenges) that has carved her niché in the Adult Lifestyle and Leisure Industry in major cities of Nigeria and Ghana!

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