MAKING WOMEN CUM

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   This is a very important topic in the art of lovemaking because it is all inclusive! (Let's use a regular straight couple as our focus here). Both the man and the woman should participate in the act to ensure the lady cums. Often times most ladies leave all the work to the man without realizing that it's their cum not the man's! The man can easily cum meaning that the lady can often times be left without orgasm after the lovemaking! 

   Kindly permit me to divide this topic into different parts for better understanding of this topic. Some parts would be the responsibility of the men while the other parts would be the responsibility of the women in ensuring that both cooperate to make the woman cum. 

                                MEN

(1)  Mental Foreplay

   This is a form of foreplay where the man (and vice versa meaning ladies too can indulge) prepares his lady's mind in anticipation of lovemaking by complimenting her beauty, telling her sweet things she loves to hear, calling her on the phone to tell her how he cannot wait to ravish her sexy body, chatting her up and telling her naughty things and how irresistible her body is and how he enjoys her sex play, buying her something he knows she would appreciate (not necessarily something expensive) - it could be even suya (steak) or any little snacks she loves. 

   Employing some of these tips listed above, she would definitely melt in his arms by the time they both get in the act of lovemaking because he had mentally prepared her for the act. 

(2)   Erotic/Sexual (Physical) Foreplay 

   By now, the lady's mind has been prepared mentally for lovemaking which automatically has its effects on how responsive to the man's physical touch her body will be. 

   This form of foreplay is the physical version of the mental foreplay where the services of the hands (fingers inclusive), tongues, mouth, bodies, etc. of both the man and woman are employed. Please note that penetrative sex (inserting the penis into the vagina) is not necessary at this stage. 

   You begin with soft kisses and sensual caresses. There is no need to rush or heat up things now because it is not a quickie (rushed sex). Take your time and savour every second of the foreplay. Stroke her hair and gently caress her face as you kiss her. 

    After like 15 to 20 mins or even more, you can now concentrate on teasing certain parts of her body. 

    Gently fondle her breasts just how she likes it. Kindly take note of her body language and responses (both verbal and bodily) to know when she prefers gentle fondling or slightly rough caresses of her breasts. Pinch her nipples in between caresses occasionally. Use your tongue sensually on the nipples. You can use your teeth to softly hold the nipple in place while you flick your tongue sensually around the nipples. 

   Gently slide your tongue down to her navel and lick around (you may discover an erogenous zone there). Caress her inner thighs sensually with your fingers and also occasionally use your fingers to scratch her inner thighs lightly. Trail soft kisses down her thighs and back up to her pubic region. Repeat same using your tongue sensually. 

   By now she should be trembling all over or talking gibberish but do not stop the foreplay. Tease all around her clitoris with your tongue, specifically avoiding her clitoris. Do this clock wise ten times and anti-clock wise ten times simultaneously ten times. Flatten your tongue on her vulva and lick the entire length from end of her vagina up to her clitoris in one sweep. Repeat like ten times. Lock around the labia minora and labia majora paying equal attention to both! 

By now her clitoris should be aching for specific attention. Flick your tongue across her clitoris horizontally and vertically and lick all around. First begin sensually then proceed to exert little more pressure. Note, read her body language to know what she prefers at any particular time. Some ladies would verbally direct you, some would use body movements while some would just stay there but you can still tell through her body rhythms if you are doing her right. 

   At this stage, if she has not grabbed your head to push it further into her pubic region or speaking in tongues then you are either missing something or she is not yet comfortable enough with you to explicitly express her sexual excitements (but you will know from the reactions in her vagina). She might even start begging for you to insert your penis into her vagina for those ladies that can not endure or are not used to prolonged sensually torturous foreplay but do not succum. Continue what you are doing. 

   While still at it, insert a finger or two into her, by now, copious vagina and finger fuck her furiously. You can surprise her with a little butt-hole play by inserting a well-lubricated (with saliva or oil) finger into her butt-hole slowly and sensually, lingering at the tip before fully sliding in but if she feels uncomfortable or does not just want it, please stop at once in other not to ruin the fun by getting her off the mood. 

   If you are good and persistent, by now, she should have at least cum once but more likely to cum more than once. Different ladies with different physiological and biological set up. 

   Now, the vagina should be well-oiled and really itching for your penis. You can insert your penis and finish up your meal. 

    Note that some ladies become very sensitive after they cum and would need to calm down for up to 30 minutes before she can allow you insert your penis inside her vagina. If your woman belongs to this category and you do not want to break the fun, bring her close to orgasm and stop before she cums. Do this several times but you need to be very calculating and observant so that she does not cum. After you feel she has got enough torture from you from the foreplay, insert your penis and make sweet love to her. She would cum during sex and everyone would be satisfied. 

   Basically, you just need to be an explorer. Try to locate her hidden erogenous zones. Gently finger her butthole with a well-lubricated finger (if she is comfortable with it). Lick/suck her fingers and toes. Softly caress her bum, knees, inner thighs, feet etc. Some ladies who are in tune with their body sexually, reading this piece would have by now seen their own unusual erogenous zone(s) from the list I just mentioned above. 

                            WOMEN

(3)  Employing The Power Of Imagination and Fantasies

   While it is the duty of the man to mentally and sensually prepare his woman for sex by mental, emotional and physical (sexual) foreplay, the lady should note that it is her orgasm so she should also participate in wetting the grounds by whetting her sexual appetite with her power of imagination and fantasies! 

   Either she had been hinted subtly by her man to anticipate sex or she is the one going to initiate the sex, she should prepare herself by imagining different sexual acts either with her man or any other man or woman! She should free her mind since she alone has absolute control of her thoughts and by the way, it is very private. Only she knows what sexual acts she is cooking up in her mind. 

   She can close her eyes to imagine enact fantasies in her mind. She should feel free to choose her cast (actors) that would help her make it a successful fantasy. She should feel uninhabited during this thought process so as not to feel guilt. Going down the guilt strip would only ruin the fantasy. 

   If she feels comfortable touching herself, she can sensually caress her breasts and nipples, run her hands in a caressing manner over sensual parts of her body including her inner thighs and clitoris. This would help heighten her imagination and make her fantasy look real. Thereby making her the lead actress of her own fantasy going on in her head. 

   Please note that it is not compulsory to touch herself if she is not comfortable with it. The key is to maintain focus so that she does not break the fantasy chain by the feeling of guilt or doing what she is not comfortable with. A few women who have mastered the use of the power of imagination and fantasies are able to achieve nerve wracking orgasms even without touching their bodies. 

   She should feel free to imagine anything sexually. Enjoy the freedom of uninhibited sexual imagination. For example, she may have had the fantasy of fucking a pilot in a plane with one of the hostesses walking in on them and joining them or having her pussy pleasurablely sucked by a sexy female co-worker at the office (even though she is not lesbian or bi and may never wish to try out in reality) or erotic things she has in mind to enjoy with her man when they finally meet later in the day to enjoy sweet sex like trying out a new sex style or allowing him finger her butthole for the first time etc. 

   She would realize how sweetly sensitive the entire length of her body would be and the extent of wetness she would feel in her vagina (that is if she had not already orgasmed or slightly creamed her panties or bedspread or couch ) if she effectively employed the power of imagination and fantasies. 

   Now, when she eventually engages her man in a sexual act, she would realise that her body has become more receptive to his kisses, caresses and penis strokes better than it used to. This is why ovulation sex is sweetest. The woman's body is already on heat from her natural biological clock settings and has subconsciously mentally conditioned her body for sex. Ladies do not need to wait for the peak of ovulation to enjoy such horny sex but instead employ the power of imagination and fantasies. 

   This can also be employed during the main sexual act. It heightens the mood and makes the lady sink deeper into sexual illusion thereby preparing the way for a series of explosive orgasms. No more excuse for vagina dryness and non-sensitivity of clitoris ! 

   By the way, if as a lady, you try out our therapy mentioned above and you still feel dryness of vagina or little or no sensitivity of clitoris, kindly connect with us, Ray's Sensual Calls Agency, directly on the phone 08171900927 via direct call or WhatsApp for a homeopathic remedy without side effects. We are 100% confidential so you do not bother about the privacy of your consultations with us. 

(4)  Seeing A Porn Flick Or Romantic Film

   Many ladies really underestimate the benefits of occasionally seeing porn flicks (kindly note that you should not be addicted to it and have at the back of your mind that not all you see is how it is. Many of the guys have used drugs to enlarge their penises and also use drugs during sex. Never you compare the men's penis sizes and performance with that of your man.) 

   If possible I will advise that you mostly see amateur home made porn flicks so that you do not get erroneous thoughts and ruin the mood and reason why you are seeing the porn flick which was to pep you up for sex and even learn and re-learn sexual acts to use on your man. 

   Romantic films are mostly for lovers and married couples. This would help put you in the right mood for sex. It would appeal to the part of your brains that controls sexual activities and stimulate it. This in turn would have multiplier effects on your entire body and would make you start feeling warm and sexy and ready for romantic passionate sex with your man! 

(5)   The Use Of Sex Toys

    Ladies can employ the use of sex toys to enhance their sexuality and sexual awareness. This helps them get in tune with their sexual self. When a lady knows how and where to touch herself, she can sexually guide her man on how and where to touch her during foreplay and penetrative sex! 

(6)   Teasing Herself And Guiding Her Man 

   It noteworthy that many ladies allow the man to do all the work during sexual intercourse and later complain that he was not able to satisfy her in bed. The truth is that it takes only a very skilled and passionate man to effectively make such a lady cum. 

   It is best advised for ladies to be sexually communicative in bed with their man. Tell him how you want it and where you want it most. Gently stop him when you feel uncomfortable and guide him how you want it. When he is getting it right, encourage him with soft moans and let him know he is doing you right. 

   Take the cue occasionally especially when the position you are in is comfortable enough for you to caress your breasts, tease your nipples, and even play with your clitoris to work in rhythm with what he is doing to you sexually. You would be glad you did. 

•    Kindly note that sexual intercourse is like a musical band. All the instrumentalists play their instruments individually but in harmony with each other to produce a pleasant sound called music. In same vein, the pleasant sound you and your man wants to create here is your pleasurable orgasm(s)!

(7)  Mastering The Art Of Vagina Skills During Sex

   Most ladies just lie in bed and allow the man to put in all the energy and skills during sexual intercourse. This is very wrong. The saying, "it takes two to tango," also works here! Ladies should up their sexual games. Learn to use their vaginal walls to stimulate themselves sexually to trigger orgasm and by extension sweetly pleasure the tip of the penises of their men when inside their vaginas. A dry vagina cannot achieve this. Hence, taking particular notes of steps 3, 4 and 6 mentioned above and putting it in practice would be of great benefits here.  Once you can achieve vagina wetness, the next thing is to learn how to "dance on a penis!" Build your own rhythms and patterns of riding a penis. Learning how to twerk would be a good starter. See lots of porn flicks and learn by practice different skills the ladies practice. 

• Please, indulge in only styles that you are comfortable with. Do not break your back for any man (he would leave you for another lady eventually). This is why as a lady, you need to constantly workout. Get your body in shape so that during sexual intercourse, it would just feel like another work out because the bed is the best piece of sexual work out apparatus! 

   Another thing ladies need to learn is vagina gripping excercises. It is called Kegel's Excercise! The way to indulge and master this art is too pee a little then hold your pee for 10 seconds. Repeat 6 times then finally release the entire pee after the 6th time. You can start gradually by once a day for a week (early morning pee would be the best to practice with). After a week without breaking it, proceed to twice a week. After another week, proceed to thrice a week and maintain it there for 3 months to 5months. 

   When you master this art coupled with twerking on a penis and you do both at the same time (penis gripping and releasing with twerking) on a penis, such a man will go to heaven and come back and would never forget what you did to him sexually because he may never have experienced such in his life or only a one/two ladies must have given him such an experience. 

   By the way, it would help you control how and when you want to orgasm.  The depths and joyful screams of your orgasms would know no bounds.

   I hope I have been able to impact something good and new (in certain cases, refreshed your memory) into you sexually. Kindly share this page to others to learn from and help them enjoy a better sex life. A healthy sex life is the crux of a romantic relationship/marriage. 

   

   If as a MAN you are experiencing low performance in sex, meaning you have either of these issues - poor libido, weak erection, quick ejaculation, low sperm count, etc. please quickly connect with us on 08171900927 (Call/WhatsApp) for 100% NATURAL and CONFIDENTIAL homeopathic Cure for any of the issues mentioned above. You cannot make your woman cum and enjoy sex if you have any of the mentioned issues above. 

   If you are a woman that experiences vagina dryness or low clitoris sensitivity, you cannot enjoy sex and orgasm would only be a wishful thinking for you. Quickly connect with us for immediate Private Consultations, kindly Call/SMS me confidentially on 08171900927 or WhatsApp me confidentially on 09153275207

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 I am Dr. Ray, an Asian-Trained Masseur (Male Massage Therapist), Homeopathic Physiotherapist, Sex Therapist, Couples Intimacy Coach and Homeopathic Medicines Dr.

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